What do you do in minutes when you feel uncomfortable and edgy, but you’re not quite certain why or what to do about it? In this report, you’ll learn a simple technique to get into the heart of what you’re feeling and find the message inside, so you can take actions to move you ahead.
So, what’s your first inclination when you feel edgy? Do you divert yourself by focusing on something else? Do you examine it until you think of a story which makes sense?
These are all natural inclinations that can have value. These approaches may alleviate or take your mind off of symptoms in the short run. Yet they may also perpetuate the recurrence of the exact same feeling over and over. Identifying with the stories we tell about our adventures can make them stick and repeat. We tend to believe our stories and tell them over and over, so our life replays at a self-fulfilling loop.
So, what can you do in these awkward moments which would change things, direct you ahead, and start something new? Here’s a simple technique Named Accessing Your Mental Centerline.
The minute you notice yourself feeling edgy and uncomfortable, instead of leaping into analyzing it and coming up with a story to explain it, see if you’re able to just sit with the sensation, be present with it, and get underneath it.
Try these four steps:
1. Add a mental pause, let go of thinking, and focus on the sensations along your Emotional Centerline: from your neck, through the center of your chest, to your lower abdomen. Focusing on sensations along your Emotional Centerline quiets the believing mind and lets you access your emotions without the baggage of intense storylines.
Inquire into the specific sensations in this area of your body. Is it tight, compressed, blocked, hard, hot, cold, numb, pierced, deflated, sinking, empty, raw, tingly, fluttering, climbing…?
2. Pay attention to these sensations mindfully. In other words, see if it’s possible to accept the sensations completely, unconditionally, and non-judgmentally. See if you can become familiar with the felt sensation without telling a story about being absorbed by it.
3. See if you can label the exact feeling the sensation represents. You’ll feel a”yes” when you have the right label. Is it anger, sadness, fear, anxiety, joy, enthusiasm,…?
4. As soon as you’ve identified the emotion you’re feeling, ask what it is prompting you to do. Focus into the sensation along your Mental Centerline and address your query here. Notice what comes into your consciousness. It could be a nonverbal knowing, particular words, an image, a song, or an inspiration to do, say, or feel something… Just notice what arises, stay with it, and let it grow in clarity.
If nothing appears in this moment, see if you can maintain an awareness of your Mental Centerline as you go about your daily life. Notice what you know as you do that.
As you practice these four steps again and again, you’ll discover you can catch yourself before you get too deeply entrenched in uncomfortable, edgy feelings or overly-identified along with your typical stories about what they mean. You’ll discover there is a deeper guidance below the surface of your emotions. Emotional intelligence cuts through mental chatter and speaks to the essence of what you will need to do in this moment. Sometimes this wisdom is vastly different from the stories your mind is in the habit of telling.